Lately, there’s been a lot of talk about keeping to your routine or how to stay productive while working from home. Let’s not forget we’ve been doing more than we’re capable of right now in this challenging time and we should be gentler with ourselves.
Need help to calm your soul? Here are some quotes to help you pull through those dark and gloomy days.
1. If You've Been Feeling Scared
It’s understandable if you are frightened because things are uncertain after all. If you need to talk to someone, the Women, Family and Community Development Ministry’s initiative, Talian Kasih, has 528 counsellors who are ready to support and help you cope during this period of time. Just pick up the phone and call the hotline at 019-261-5999 (WhatsApp) or 15999.
2. Give Yourself a Break
A reminder for all of us who have been working from home! Now that there are no rituals to demarcate work and home life, we tend to get caught up with work and owe ourselves some rest. So relax, set reminders for breaks, and clock in that seven to nine hours of sleep every night because long-term sleep deprivation can lead to a myriad of chronic medical conditions such as hypertension, heart disease, diabetes, memory loss…you get the gist.
3. It's Ok, Just BE
It’s alright to not be the best when it comes to presenting or coming up with good ideas or being the tallest in the room because your time has yet to come! Except for the last part, there’s nothing you can do about it. In the meantime, just know that you are exactly where you are meant to be and pat yourself on the back for being patient with your progress.
4. Stay Calm in Eye of the Storm
A beacon of hope and balm for the soul, Charlie Mackesy’s moving Instagram feed is the antidote to difficult times. Better yet, do yourself a favour and get your hands on his latest book which also happens to be the Sunday Times and New York Times’ bestseller – The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse because there’s no place better to be when you feel like your nerves are frayed.
Disclaimer: this is not an ad. It just happens that this book is a personal favourite.
5. Mistakes Are Not Scary
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The older you get, the more you learn, & the more experience on which you have to reflect. . The more you grow, the more you will be able to handle your emotions better, or other people's emotions, or conflict, or saying no, or difficult relationships, or taking up space. And as the veil is lifted from your eyes, shame sometimes creeps in while reflecting on the past. . . "Man I shouldn't have let that friendship just fizzle. I should have been more direct about what upset me." or "wow, I realize the first five years of my child's life I invalidated their emotions" or "I wish I would have stuck up for myself" "I wish I would not have been such a know-it-all to my friends" or "I can't believe I spent my entire life trying to please my parents and am on a career path I hate because of it and am now just realizing this was a waste." . . The more we become aware to our conditioning from life, society, growing up, etc, the more we learn and want to grow. We see that some of our coping mechanisms that were helpful growing up are not very helpful anymore, and often harmful. But it's hard. It hurts. Growing is not easy. It's actually much harder to take a new path in the 6 feet of snow when there is a path of comfortability right in front of you that is plowed from being walked through for years and years. . And what I encourage everyone to do is remind yourself...this is your first rodeo with life. You have been doing what you knew to do given your level of awareness at the time. And the saddest thing we could do for ourselves is be the same person today as we will be in ten years from now, which means we will need to make a lot of mistakes. True wisdom comes from being able to put our ego aside and compassionately and non-judgmentally reflect on ourselves, our defenses, our actions, our habits, our thought patterns, and to learn and grow from them. In order to compassionately reflect, we must remind ourselves we are doing our best. And between now and ten years from now, we will make more mistakes than we can count. And what a beautiful gift to be able to learn and grow from them and share wisdom with someone else.
In hindsight, it’s easy to beat ourselves up for not doing things the “correct” way but to be fair we couldn’t have predicted the future, and at that moment in time, we’ve done the best of our capabilities. So here’s what you can do instead: channel your energy into forgiving yourself. If you can’t do that just yet, here’s a virtual hug and gold star from us to make you feel better.